Many women who have experienced abuse have little or no understanding of what has happened to them and it simply feels like a painful, confusing mess for which they are partly to blame.

This programme aims to explore the tactics of an abuser. We name him and his tactics giving us, the victims of abuse, greater understanding and knowledge of how they have used these tactics to manipulate and control us. It helps us put all the blame squarely on the shoulders of the perpetrator, where it belongs.

This programme examines the roles played by attitudes and belief on actions and responses of both male perpetrators and women survivors.

The underlying reason for using violence and abuse is the desire to maintain control over their partner. Physical violence may not be used regularly and, in some cases, will not be used at all. However, there is a continuum of other tactics and behaviour which enable abusive partners to take control.